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Best Cat Breeds for Families

The cat breeds most often recommended for families with children are the Ragdoll, Maine Coon, Birman, British Shorthair and American Shorthair — chosen for tolerance of handling and low reactivity. Temperament varies far more between individual cats than between breeds, and no breed removes the need to teach children how to handle a cat.

How this list was compiled

Editorially selected from the 30 breeds covered in the WARN breed guides, on the basis of tolerance of handling, sociability and low reactivity as recorded in each guide. Ordered by popularity rank.

Cats are less breed-determined than dogs. A cat's tolerance of noise, handling and small children comes far more from early socialisation and individual character than from pedigree, which is why any list like this shifts the odds rather than settling the question.

The breeds below are the ones most consistently described as placid and tolerant of being picked up, which is the trait that matters most in a house with young children. Just as important is the other half: children have to be taught that a cat leaving the room is a complete sentence. Most bites and scratches in family homes follow a cat being pursued after it tried to withdraw.

Best Cat Breeds for Families at a glance

Breed Size Lifespan Temperament
Maine Coon Large (5–11 kg) 12–15 years Gentle, sociable, playful
Ragdoll Large (4.5–9 kg) 12–17 years Docile, affectionate, relaxed
British Shorthair Medium (4–8 kg) 12–17 years Calm, easygoing, loyal
American Shorthair Medium (4–7 kg) 15–20 years Easygoing, friendly, adaptable
Birman Medium (3–6 kg) 13–17 years Gentle, quiet, affectionate
Burmese Medium (4–6 kg) 13–17 years People-oriented, playful, vocal
Tonkinese Medium (2.5–5.5 kg) 13–17 years Social, playful, talkative
Exotic Shorthair Medium (3–6 kg) 13–17 years Calm, affectionate, gentle
Manx Medium (3–5 kg) 13–17 years Playful, loyal, rabbit-like hop
Selkirk Rex Medium (3–7 kg) 13–17 years Patient, tolerant, cuddly

Best Cat Breeds for Families: full profiles

Each entry covers what the breed was bred for, day-to-day needs, and health problems to watch — with a link to the full guide.

Maine Coon — cat breed guide

01 / United States (Maine)

Maine Coon

The Maine Coon is one of the largest domestic cat breeds, known as a 'gentle giant' for its big size, shaggy water-resistant coat, tufted ears, bushy tail, and friendly, dog-like, people-loving personality.

Size
Large (5–11 kg)
Lifespan
12–15 years
Temperament
Gentle, sociable, playful
Origin
United States (Maine)

Coat & grooming — Long, shaggy, water-resistant coat; needs weekly brushing

Suits — Families, children, other pets, dog-friendly homes

Health to watch for

  • Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (HCM) — HCM is a heart condition where the heart muscle thickens, and it can be present without obvious early signs.
  • Hip dysplasia — As a large breed, Maine Coons can develop hip joint problems that cause stiffness or reduced activity.
  • Spinal muscular atrophy — This inherited condition can cause muscle weakness and an unsteady gait in some Maine Coons.
Full Maine Coon guide
Ragdoll — cat breed guide

02 / United States (California)

Ragdoll

The Ragdoll is a large, blue-eyed, semi-longhaired cat famous for relaxing and going limp when picked up. Gentle, affectionate, and people-oriented, it loves following owners around and makes a devoted, easygoing lap cat.

Size
Large (4.5–9 kg)
Lifespan
12–17 years
Temperament
Docile, affectionate, relaxed
Origin
United States (California)

Coat & grooming — Semi-long silky coat; needs brushing twice weekly

Suits — Families, children, seniors, multi-pet homes

Health to watch for

  • Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (HCM) — HCM thickens the heart muscle and can develop without clear early signs in Ragdolls.
  • Urinary tract issues — Ragdolls can be prone to bladder and urinary problems, which may cause straining or frequent trips to the litter box.
  • Obesity — Their calm, laid-back nature means Ragdolls can gain weight easily.
Full Ragdoll guide
British Shorthair — cat breed guide

03 / United Kingdom

British Shorthair

The British Shorthair is a sturdy, round-faced cat with a dense, plush coat, best known in solid blue-grey. Calm, dignified, and easygoing, it is an undemanding, affectionate companion that bonds quietly with its family.

Size
Medium (4–8 kg)
Lifespan
12–17 years
Temperament
Calm, easygoing, loyal
Origin
United Kingdom

Coat & grooming — Short, dense, plush coat; brush weekly

Suits — Families, busy owners, calm multi-pet homes

Health to watch for

  • Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (HCM) — HCM is a heart condition that thickens the heart muscle and may not show obvious early signs.
  • Obesity — British Shorthairs are calm and food-loving, so they can put on weight easily.
  • Polycystic kidney disease (PKD) — PKD is an inherited condition where kidney cysts can affect function over time.
Full British Shorthair guide
American Shorthair — cat breed guide

04 / United States

American Shorthair

The American Shorthair is a sturdy, healthy working cat turned family pet, known for its even temperament and low-maintenance care. Friendly and adaptable, it makes an easygoing companion that suits a wide range of households.

Size
Medium (4–7 kg)
Lifespan
15–20 years
Temperament
Easygoing, friendly, adaptable
Origin
United States

Coat & grooming — Short, thick, dense coat; brush weekly

Suits — Families, children, first-time owners, other pets

Health to watch for

  • Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (HCM) — HCM is a heart condition that thickens the heart muscle and may not show obvious early signs.
  • Obesity — Their easygoing nature means American Shorthairs can gain weight if overfed.
  • Dental disease — Like many cats, they can develop tartar buildup and gum problems that cause bad breath or discomfort.
Full American Shorthair guide
Birman — cat breed guide

05 / Burma/France

Birman

The Birman, or 'Sacred Cat of Burma', is a medium-sized, semi-longhaired colourpoint breed known for deep blue eyes and pure white 'gloves' on every paw. Gentle, quiet and affectionate, it is a calm, people-loving companion that follows its owners devotedly without being overly demanding.

Size
Medium (3–6 kg)
Lifespan
13–17 years
Temperament
Gentle, quiet, affectionate
Origin
Burma/France

Coat & grooming — A medium-long, silky single coat with no woolly undercoat, which means it mats far less than most longhairs and never feels heavy. Shedding is light to moderate; a quick brush once or twice a week keeps the coat glossy and tangle-free, with a little extra attention around the ruff and 'breeches'. Bathing is rarely needed.

Suits — An excellent all-round family cat that suits first-time owners, families with children, and homes with other cats or gentle dogs. Its calm, sociable and adaptable nature makes it well suited to flats and quieter households alike. Birmans dislike being left alone for long stretches, so they do best where someone is often home or where they have a companion animal for company.

Health to watch for

  • Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (HCM) — Thickening of the heart muscle that may cause sudden illness or heart failure.
  • Kidney disease — Kidney disease can occur in this breed and may need veterinary monitoring.
  • Dental disease — Plaque and tartar build-up leads to gum infection and tooth loss.
Full Birman guide
Burmese — cat breed guide

06 / Burma/United States

Burmese

The Burmese is a medium, muscular cat famed for being unusually people-oriented, playful and vocal, forming intensely close bonds with its household. Surprisingly heavy for its size, it is sometimes called a 'brick wrapped in silk' and thrives on constant company and interaction.

Size
Medium (4–6 kg)
Lifespan
13–17 years
Temperament
People-oriented, playful, vocal
Origin
Burma/United States

Coat & grooming — Short, fine, satin-like coat that lies close to the body with a glossy sheen. It is very low-maintenance: a weekly stroke with a rubber brush or chamois keeps it gleaming, shedding is light, and bathing is rarely needed.

Suits — Excellent for families, children and homes with other pets, as the Burmese craves company and dislikes being left alone for long. Well suited to flats provided there is play and attention, but it is a poor choice for people who are out all day. Friendly enough for first-time owners.

Health to watch for

  • Diabetes risk — Diabetes risk can occur in this breed and may need veterinary monitoring.
  • Hypokalemia — Hypokalemia can occur in this breed and may need veterinary monitoring.
  • Dental disease — Plaque and tartar build-up leads to gum infection and tooth loss.
Full Burmese guide
Tonkinese — cat breed guide

07 / United States

Tonkinese

The Tonkinese is a medium, social and playful cat created by crossing the Siamese and Burmese, blending the looks and personalities of both. Talkative, affectionate and people-loving, it is known for its striking aqua eyes and its habit of following owners from room to room.

Size
Medium (2.5–5.5 kg)
Lifespan
13–17 years
Temperament
Social, playful, talkative
Origin
United States

Coat & grooming — Short, soft, close-lying coat with a fine, silky texture and a mink-like sheen. Grooming is minimal: a weekly brush or hand-stroke removes loose hair, shedding is light, and bathing is seldom required.

Suits — A wonderful family cat that enjoys children, other cats and cat-savvy dogs, and is happy in flats as long as it gets plenty of attention. Like its Burmese and Siamese ancestors it hates being alone, so it suits busy, sociable homes rather than people who are out all day. Fine for first-time owners.

Health to watch for

  • Dental disease — Plaque and tartar build-up leads to gum infection and tooth loss.
  • Heart conditions — Heart conditions can occur in this breed and may need veterinary monitoring.
  • Eye conditions — Breed-related eye problems may include cataracts, progressive retinal atrophy, or cherry eye.
Full Tonkinese guide
Exotic Shorthair — cat breed guide

08 / United States

Exotic Shorthair

The Exotic Shorthair is a medium, calm and affectionate cat, essentially a Persian in a short, plush coat, with the same flat face and sweet, gentle nature. Nicknamed 'the lazy man's Persian', it offers Persian looks and temperament with far less grooming.

Size
Medium (3–6 kg)
Lifespan
13–17 years
Temperament
Calm, affectionate, gentle
Origin
United States

Coat & grooming — Short to medium, dense, soft and plush, standing slightly away from the body like teddy-bear fur. It needs far less work than a Persian's, but a quick comb two or three times a week reduces shedding and matting; facial folds should be wiped to keep them clean.

Suits — A gentle, easy-going companion that suits families, quieter children, flats and homes with other calm pets. Its placid, undemanding nature makes it ideal for first-time owners and people seeking a low-energy lap cat. Because of its flat face it should be kept indoors or in safe, temperate conditions.

Health to watch for

  • Brachycephalic airway syndrome — Short skull shape narrows airways, causing snoring, exercise intolerance, and heat sensitivity.
  • Eye conditions — Breed-related eye problems may include cataracts, progressive retinal atrophy, or cherry eye.
  • Dental disease — Plaque and tartar build-up leads to gum infection and tooth loss.
Full Exotic Shorthair guide
Manx — cat breed guide

09 / Isle of Man

Manx

The Manx is a sturdy, round-bodied cat from the Isle of Man, instantly recognised for its missing or shortened tail. Sociable and playful, it has powerful hind legs that give a distinctive rabbit-like hop and a reputation as a devoted, dog-like companion.

Size
Medium (3–5 kg)
Lifespan
13–17 years
Temperament
Playful, loyal, rabbit-like hop
Origin
Isle of Man

Coat & grooming — Comes in shorthair and longhair (the Cymric) varieties, both with a plush, dense double coat that feels padded to the touch. The shorthair needs weekly brushing, while the longhair benefits from two or three sessions a week to prevent matting. Shedding is moderate and rises during seasonal coat changes.

Suits — A friendly, adaptable choice for families, including those with gentle children and other pets, and manageable for attentive first-time owners. Manx cats form strong bonds, follow their people about and often greet visitors at the door. They suit both houses and flats provided they get play and company, but tail-touching should be avoided as the area can be sensitive.

Health to watch for

  • Spina bifida — Spina bifida can occur in this breed and may need veterinary monitoring.
  • Arthritis — Arthritis can occur in this breed and may need veterinary monitoring.
  • Constipation — Constipation can occur in this breed and may need veterinary monitoring.
Full Manx guide
Selkirk Rex — cat breed guide

10 / United States

Selkirk Rex

The Selkirk Rex is a sturdy, plush-bodied cat famous for its soft, randomly curled coat, which gives it a tousled, teddy-bear look. Patient, tolerant and notably cuddly, it is calmer than most rex breeds and fits easily into family life.

Size
Medium (3–7 kg)
Lifespan
13–17 years
Temperament
Patient, tolerant, cuddly
Origin
United States

Coat & grooming — Comes in both longhair and shorthair, with loose, soft curls that are most pronounced around the neck, belly and tail; even the whiskers may curl. The dense, slightly woolly coat sheds and benefits from gentle weekly combing rather than brushing, which can straighten the curls. Over-bathing or heavy grooming relaxes the curl, so a light touch keeps the texture.

Suits — A great all-rounder for families, children, multi-pet homes and first-time owners thanks to its easy-going, affectionate temperament. Its moderate energy suits both flats and houses, and it is content to be a relaxed lap companion rather than a demanding athlete. Like all cats it appreciates play and climbing options, but its exercise needs are modest.

Health to watch for

  • Polycystic kidney disease — Polycystic kidney disease can occur in this breed and may need veterinary monitoring.
  • Hypertrophic cardiomyopathy (HCM) — Thickening of the heart muscle that may cause sudden illness or heart failure.
  • Dental disease — Plaque and tartar build-up leads to gum infection and tooth loss.
Full Selkirk Rex guide

Best Cat Breeds for Families: frequently asked questions

What is the best family cat breed?
The Ragdoll is the most common recommendation — it is exceptionally placid and generally tolerant of being carried. Maine Coons are highly sociable and often good with children and dogs. Birmans and British Shorthairs are calm and undemanding.
What is the friendliest cat breed?
Ragdolls, Maine Coons and Birmans are the breeds most consistently described as people-oriented. Burmese and Tonkinese are more actively demanding of attention, which some households love and others find relentless.
Are cats good with children?
Many are, given proper introductions and supervision. The decisive factors are whether the cat has an escape route it can always reach, and whether children have been taught not to follow a cat that withdraws. A cat with somewhere to retreat to almost never needs to escalate.
Should we get a kitten or an adult cat for our family?
An adult cat from a rescue is very often the better choice. Its temperament is already known rather than predicted, rescues assess how cats behave around children and other animals before rehoming, and adults are typically already litter-trained. Kittens are appealing but their adult character is much less certain.

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